The First Four Ways of Letting Go

The First Four Ways of Letting Go

• Deciding to drop the emotion
• Welcoming or allowing the emotion
• Diving into the core of the emotion
• Holistic releasing

These are the first four ways to approach the process of releasing and all lead to the same result: liberating your natural ability to let go of any unwanted emotion on the spot and allowing some of the suppressed energy in your subconscious to dissipate. The first way is by choosing to let go of the unwanted feeling. The second way is to welcome the feeling to allow the emotion just to be. The third way is to dive into the core of the emotion. The fourth way is by holistically embracing both sides of any issue or belief. There is also a Fifth Way of Releasing which will be described on a separate page.

Deciding to Drop It

Let me explain by asking you to participate in a simple release. Pick up a pen, a pencil, or some small object that you would be willing to drop without giving it a second thought.

Now, hold the object in front of you and really grip it tightly. Pretend this is one of your limiting feelings and that your hand represents your gut or your consciousness. If you held the object long enough, this would start to feel uncomfortable yet familiar.

Now, open your hand and roll the object around in it. Notice that you are the one holding on to it; it is not attached to your hand. The same is true with your feelings. Your feelings are as attached to you as this object is attached to your hand.

We hold on to our feelings and forget that we are holding on to them. It’s even in our language. When we feel angry or sad, we don’t usually say, “I feel angry,” or “I feel sad.” We say, “I am angry,” or “I am sad.” Without realizing it, we are misidentifying that we are the feeling. Often, we believe a feeling is holding on to us. This is not true… we are always in control and just don’t know it.
Now, let the object go.

What happened? You let go of the object, and it dropped to the floor. Was that hard? Of course not. That’s what we mean when we say, “Let go or ‘release.’”

You can do the same thing with any emotion: choose to let it go.

Welcoming or Allowing the Emotion

Sticking with this same analogy: If you walked around with your hand open, wouldn’t it be very difficult to hold on to the pen or any other object? Likewise, when you allow or welcome a feeling, you are opening your consciousness, and this enables the feeling to drop away by itself like clouds passing in the sky or smoke rising up an open chimney flue. It is as though you are removing the lid from a pressure cooker.

Diving into the Core of the Emotion

Now, if you took the same object a pencil, pen, or pebble and magnified it large enough, it would appear more and more like empty space. You would be looking into the gaps between the molecules and atoms. When you dive into the very core of a feeling, you will observe a comparable phenomenon: Nothing is really there.

As you master the process of releasing, you will discover that even your deepest feelings are just on the surface. At the core you are empty, silent, and at peace, not in the pain and darkness that most of us would assume. In fact, even our most extreme feelings have only as much substance as a soap bubble. And you know what happens when you poke your finger into a soap bubble. It pops. That’s exactly what happens when you dive into the core of a feeling.

Holistic Releasing

Lastly, as you focus on the object in your hand you will notice that it is defined by opposites. In other words the reason you can perceive the object is because of the space around it. Without space there can be no contents. When it comes to emotionally-based problems and feelings, they are defined or held together by opposites as well. We have good and bad, right and wrong, happy and sad, and love and hate to just name a few. When you welcome both sides of any of these pairs, as opposed to clinging to one and resisting the other, you find that they both dissolve leaving you with the empty space that allows for all experiencing. We call this fourth way of releasing Holistic Releasing.

I have used this thru the years..works yes it does.

Jahn